Monday, 26 December 2016

What is Boxing Day?

Good Morning Everyone!

Hope you all had a lovely Christmas, Hanukkah or what ever it is you celebrate over this holiday period. 

Today it is Boxing Day, which takes me back to the conversation I had with my (American) friend just little under a year a go where she had heard of boxing day but had never really knew what it was about. I explained that I think its something to do with either when many moons a go us Brits used to open our Christmas Presents, or something a long those lines, and how it was a bank holiday for us.

So I figured I would do some research to see if my theory was right. According to my research there are a number of possible origins for boxing day, the closest I could find to what I had told my friend was:

Boxing Day was traditionally a day off for servants and the day when they received a  ‘Christmas Box’ from the master. The servants would also go home on Boxing Day to give ‘Christmas Boxes’ to their families.
In recent years, Boxing Day, is more of an extension on Christmas Day really, spending time with family and friends, and eating Christmas Day leftovers, its has also recently been a big day in sports, where many sports teams will play in their respective field.

It is also the start of the Sale season in retail, so could also I guess be our version of the US's Black Friday....

Speaking of Sales, I'm off  (Window) Shopping!

See ya 

Wednesday, 7 December 2016

Clothing Revolution

Following on from my recent post about minimalism, I decided to have a bit of a clothing revolution, which is still currently underway.

I had a stack of clothes which I had stored under my bed in one of those vacuum lock bags, you know the ones, where you shove them in the bag, attach your vacuum hose to the attached nozzle and it sucks the air and reduces the size by about 75%. Marvellous inventions really.

Anyway, the said clothes that I had under my bed, are from my slimmer days, and I have kept hold of them, just in case they fit again. I'm sure we all have something similar to this? Goal Pants maybe?

Anyway, I decided, even if I did manage to slim down into said clothes, I would probably be wanting to reward my efforts with some new clothes rather that old ones, so I gave them away to a friend. All but my favourite shirt.

I've also took the conscious decision to go through my current wardrobe and come up with a way to decide what is needed and what isn't. Many of the clothes I have are not really fit for every day purpose, they are either too office/dressy for everyday use, or clothes I would not be seen dead in at university. (YAY Comfy joggers) So I am planning on, getting rid of any clothes that I do not wear between now and February, because 3 months without wearing something, surely means I don't need it?

I'm also having a complete underwear, sock and bra overhaul, getting rid and starting again. There is a charity our there somewhere that collects Bra's for women in 3rd world countries, so I will more than likely send my over the shoulder bolder holders there (link to follow)

Thursday, 1 December 2016


Twice in the last 2 weeks I have tried to quit smoking, and twice I have been turned away.

Last week, I went to the GP to ask for some champix, and he said no I need to go to the stop smoking service which is back [in the same building] in a week.

Fast forward a week.

I go to the stop smoking service as recommended by my doctor, and they said no also, as I don't live in their catchment area, this puzzled me as I live in my GP's catchment area but not theirs?

So I left in a bit of a huff for my wasted journey.

For a few weeks now I have noticed I am getting increasingly short of breath, I'm piling the weight on and altogether unhealthy.

This coupled with a dream I had about my mother that scared the hell out of me, has made me want quit smoking.

The only thing is I don't think I will be able to just quit?

I have been looking at Vape's, but have tried and failed that in the past, but have been told by a vaping friend of mind at University that its possibly because the Vape was not strong enough for me, and that I should try again with a stronger battery.

Then on the otherhand, I also know that there are studies underway about the effects of vaping, and how you can get something called "popcorn lung" from them.

I'm not normally one for believing everything I read or see in the media, but, this time I do think that there is something there.

Whats your best quit tips?

Wednesday, 30 November 2016


Over the last few months I have been in awe over the many videos available online about Minimalism, now I know this is not necessarily a new concept, but it is new to me and I always find the idea of it quite calming.

There have been 2 concepts of minimalism that I have been looking at.
KonMarie method
100 items.

KonMarie method is about only owning things that either have a purpose, or bring you joy. Which I like to think most of my items fit into one of these categories.

100 items there are some minimalists that believe in order to be a minimalist you should own 100 things or less, this is quite extreme, with the most extreme possibly being ThrivingMinimalist on youtube, whose items all fit in a back pack.

I am a self confessed hoarder, but I hate it.
I also hate to think I have thrown something away that could come in handy at a later point. A value I believe my Nanna imprinted on me as she never believed in throwing anything away.
So I am stuck in an in between.

It's also hard to make your enironment look minimal when your "own" area is around 6ft by 7ft. Everything just looks so cramped and messy, even if its not.

Whats your take on mininalism?

Yet another life update.

Again I have realise I have left this blog to gather dust.

I have my reasons though as I have been focussing on my univeristy course which I started "full time" in September. Notice how full time is enclosed in quotation marks? That's because in all we have been having around 4/5 contact hours a week, and the rest of the required 30 hours are self directed / online study, or the brand spanking new "Blended Learning" as they call it.

I'm also the elected course rep for my course, I got votes and everything! I felt so popular, so I have been doing course rep related things such as attending meetings and trying to get the other 300 plus students to engage with me.

I am a little disappointed in the lack of actual contact hours, but in another light, I guess it also plays in my favour as it means I am able to squeeze the odd shift in at work (I now work for a healthcare agency).

I am finding it incredibly difficult to adjust to the lack of money, I am now getting around 25% of what I used to earn a month, so I am finding that a little hard to adjust to, and I am finding myself trying to become increasingly frugal. I'm just happy my Mother was happy for me to stay at her until I complete my course and get a job.

Sunday, 7 August 2016

Life Update

So yet again I have left this blog to go stagnant and stale with no updates. I'm a repeat offender of this, and I have no doubt in my mind that I will offend again in the future.

So anyway, I suddenly remembered I have a blog and thought I should update it.... I'll try to make it a quick one.

  • I walked out of my previous job, after a disagreement with the upper management of the company, and got a new job in less than a week. I may blog more about that later during the week.
  • I started University one day a week, and fingers crossed if I pass the module will be starting my Nurse Training in September.
  • I am in a new (fairly new) relationship, and learning first hand what its like to date someone with a child.
It looks as though not much has happened when I focus on the main events.

Sunday, 3 April 2016

Yes a Niche is needed!

In the previous post "Should a Blog have a Purpose?" I was basically asking if its better to have a blog with a purpose, or niche shall we say, to get the viewers in.

I have managed to answer my own question.


I recently started a new blog to do with my new weight loss journey venture, and its safe to say its been popular, with over 500 views in just 7 days.

I'll still be blogging here from time to time, but I think the majority of my time will be spent on my other blog now.

Sunday, 27 March 2016

Why Does Easter Move?

Happy Easter! 

Easter, despite it originally being the festival of the ressurection of Jesus, I would say is now more about Bunnies, Chicks, Chocolates and Egg hunts! And for weeks before the Easter period you can often see masses upon masses of sweet treats upon many aisles of supermarkets, and of course, what most of the world go mad for, and I personally cannot stand, Cadbury's Cream Eggs. You know the ones that I mean, those sickly eggs with the even more sickly gooey centre! Yuck!

Anyway, back on subject, I have often wondered why unlike any other Christian celebrated holidays does Easter move? So me being me, and liking to know everything having a thirst for knowledge, decided to read up on why this is a moveable holiday.

Long Story Short, it appears that the Easter holidays follow the phases of the moon, or rather to be exact  is usually celebrated on the first Sunday after the full moon on or after 21 March. Easter generally falls between 22 March and 25th April.

Based on the paschal full moon (for those interested The name "paschal" is derived from "Pascha", a transliteration of the Greek word, which is itself a transliteration of the Hebrew pesach, both words meaning Passover), it was decided by the bishops that Easter Day would fall on the next full moon after the spring equinox. 

This is mainly as Easter must fall on a Sunday as this was the apparent day that Jesus was resurrected.
But since the full moon can be on different days depending on the different time zones, it was decided that the full moon is always determined to be the 14th day of the lunar month.
Even though the spring equinox can occur on March 20 the Church fixes the spring equinox as March 21.
So there we have it!

Happy Easter Folks!

Wednesday, 23 March 2016

A Nurse's Response - Poem 2 of 101

The following is a reply to yesterdays poem that I published, the author is unknown, but they have penned a reply to "The Crabbit Old Woman".

The majority of people I have had the pleasure to work with often wish they could spend more time with the people in which we look after, and the majority of them again are saddened in some way by the death of one of our clients.

What do we see, you ask, what do we see?
Yes, we are thinking when looking at thee!
We may seem to be hard when we hurry and fuss,
But there’s many of you, and too few of us.
We would like far more time to sit by you and talk,
To bath you and feed you and help you to walk.
To hear of your lives and the things you have done;
Your childhood, your husband, your daughter, your son.
But time is against us, there’s too much to do -
Patients too many, and nurses too few.
We grieve when we see you so sad and alone,
With nobody near you, no friends of your own.
We feel all your pain, and know of your fear
That nobody cares now your end is so near.
But nurses are people with feelings as well,
And when we’re together you’ll often hear tell
Of the dearest old Gran in the very end bed,
And the lovely old Dad, and the things that he said,
We speak with compassion and love, and feel sad
When we think of your lives
and the joy that you’ve had,
When the time has arrived for you to depart,
You leave us behind with an ache in our heart.
When you sleep the long sleep, no more worry or care,
There are other old people, and we must be there.
So please understand if we hurry and fuss -
There are many of you,
And so few of us.

Tuesday, 22 March 2016

What do You See? Poem 1 of 101

What do you see, what do you see?
Are you thinking, when you look at me-
A crabbit old woman, not very wise,
Uncertain of habit, with far-away eyes,
Who dribbles her food and makes no reply
When you say in a loud voice,
I do wish you'd try.
Who seems not to notice the things that you do
And forever is loosing a stocking or shoe.
Who, unresisting or not; lets you do as you will
With bathing and feeding the long day is fill.
Is that what you're thinking,
Is that what you see?
Then open your eyes,
nurse, you're looking at me.
I'll tell you who I am as I sit here so still!
As I rise at your bidding, as I eat at your will.
I'm a small child of 10 with a father and mother,
Brothers and sisters, who loved one another-
A young girl of 16 with wings on her feet,
Dreaming that soon now a lover she'll meet,
A bride soon at 20- my heart gives a leap,
Remembering the vows that I promised to keep.
At 25 now I have young of my own
Who need me to build a secure happy home;
A woman of 30, my young now grow fast,
Bound to each other with ties that should last;
At 40, my young sons have grown and are gone,
But my man's beside me to see I don't mourn;
At 50 once more babies play around my knee,
Again we know children, my loved one and me.
Dark days are upon me, my husband is dead,
I look at the future, I shudder with dread,
For my young are all rearing young of their own.
And I think of the years and the love that I've known;
I'm an old woman now and nature is cruel-
Tis her jest to make old age look like a fool.
The body is crumbled, grace and vigor depart,
There is now a stone where I once had a heart,
But inside this old carcass, a young girl still dwells,
And now and again my battered heart swells,
I remember the joy, I remember the pain,
And I'm loving and living life over again.
I think of the years all too few- gone too fast.
And accept the stark fact that nothing can last-
So open your eyes, nurse, open and see,
Not a crabbit old woman, look closer-
See Me.

By: Phyilis McCormack

I first heard of this poem in 2007, It's a very sad piece really, and I'm not ashamed to admit when I first heard it I shed a little tear. 

To anyone within the health and social care setting, I urge you to put yourself in the clients shoes, it could be you one day.

This poem should be widely known among those in the health and social care setting, My local council authority at one point used this as part of their safeguarding of vulnerable adults training. The video I saw, had Virginia McKenna in, and to anyone who has no further insight into this industry it could make you believe that all settings are full of horrible, uncaring individuals. 

They aren't, but abuse, as much as it shouldn't happen does.

Monday, 14 March 2016

Holiday Hell - Do Your HomeWork!

I recently got back from my holiday in Caleta De Fuste, Fuerteventura. A bargain of a buy at around £205 each for 7 nights, including insurance and transfers at a 2 star hotel.

I say recently, it was more like 3 weeks or so a go, but that's still pretty recent I guess.

I expected glorious winter sun in its 20 degrees Celsius, glorious beaches, cocktails, lounging by the pool. The holiday failed miserably at delivering this.

But oh no, the winter doom and gloom seemed to have followed us the Two thousand, Five hundred and something miles we travelled.

It would be a bit of an understatement if I said it rained a little the first four days, it absolutely bucketed it down to the point where parts of the island was flooding. I walked around, like an idiot in shorts (I had packed for summer remember) and my big winter coat in which I had travelled from home in.

If the weather wasn't bad enough, the apartment nigh on drove me insane. Now usually I am quite the little researcher before I book anywhere, but thought I would wing it this time with it being a cheap holiday, I wont be doing that again that is for sure!

L, who I went away with, is a some one picky eater so we opted for self catering.How you can self cater one 2 electric hobs and a microwave and 2 pans is beyond me. The apartment itself was in need of a good clean and serious upgrade. And the pool looked dirtier that what my old dogs paddling pool looked like after a summer of being left out, there was scud and dead insects galore inside of it. And there was building work going on literally next door to our apartment which woke us up at the crack of dawn every morning.

We very nearly booked a return flight home after 2 days. We was so cold one point we booked ourselves into the nearest spa with a thermal pool.

The island as a whole, is obviously a very much up and coming island, as everywhere you looked there was construction work of some kind going on. Which obviously would put a downer on most peoples views of the place. Even the beach had constant construction work happening, as I assume they are in the process of extending the (manmade) beach. There wasn't even much to do either, so we was constantly spending money to try and entertain ourselves.

Fun Fact: Lemurs have Queens, not Kings as the film Madagascar depicts.

We eventually saw 2 days of sun before we came home, and went to the Oasis Zoo on one of those days, which very much made up for the whole holiday as we saw a sea lion show, paid extra to go feed the lemurs, got to stroke and feed giraffes and zebras, as well as see other animals, such as monkeys, which had been rescued from being pets. I did feel rather sorry for the elephants though, they looked so sad. and I just can't shake that image.

Anyway, moral of the story is bargain holidays are not always the best! and make sure you do do your home work!
(lol dodo!)

Tuesday, 1 March 2016

Self Injury Awareness Day

So apparently today is a self injury awareness day.

Anyone who doesn't know me in real life, or rather didn't know me when I was younger, will not be aware, that I was a self harmer.

I'm not ashamed to admit this, and if people happen to notice and ask about any questionable scarring on my arms then I won't deny what they are, but in all fairness I don't really get asked, nor are the scares that visible anymore, seeing as it is 15 ish years since it happened.

At the same time not all my self harm was through cutting, I would do things such as head banging, hair pulling etc too.

There are many reasons that I resulted to self harm, all the usual really, struggling to deal with bullies at school, problems within myself, and others, which I don't really feel the need to divulge.

I found that self harm was something I was in control over. I controlled when the pain would happen or not. Then it came to the point that I became almost addicted to self harm. This may sound silly to none self harmers, but I am pretty sure that other self harmers will know exactly where I came from.

Self harm became a habit for me, a lot like smoking, I felt I needed to do it after certain events would happen and it took some time for me to break out of this habit, and included some help from the mental health services also.

  It was not me seeking attention. Which is what I think a lot of none self harmers think.

As I said, I am not ashamed of my past of self harming, now I see it as a reminded that I over came a pretty difficult time in my life, and I am pretty proud of myself too.

Even now I can still feel drawn when things are playing on my mind, or in times of heightened emotion, but they soon pass with some diversional techniques that I have mastered over the years.

Tuesday, 9 February 2016

Pancake Day?

Hope you've all had a flipping good day. 

Here is a fact for you!

Why do we eat pancakes on Shrove Tuesday?

For Christians, Shrove Tuesday marks the day before lent, and is the last chance to indulge yourself, and to use up the foods that wasn't allowed during Lent. Pancakes are eaten on this day because they contain fat, butter and eggs which were all forbidden during Lent!

Speaking of Pancakes, what do you like to have on yours? I normally opt for golden syrup. Yummy, but may occasionally go for chocolate sauce, squirty cream and Bananas, which are equally as appetising

Sunday, 3 January 2016

Ello! Erm from Ull! Hull, (My home city) normally makes internet "headlines" for negative reasons; Such as apparrently being the least romantic city in the UK or even as extreme as the worst place in the UK ( With the most recent viral one to date being this idiot on the right, who was made an internet sensation over night with some footage which had been taken of him from a motorcyclists body camera with over 2 million views.

But upon browsing my regular news website Facebook earlier on today I came across something that for once is showing Hull in a good light. has named Hull as one of the Top 10 Cities to Visit in 2017 2016.
This is probably due to us being names the UK's City of Culture 2017.

In hindsight, Hull like any other place has both its good and bad points, and I was pleased, some might say even proud, to see this being said about my little city.

Any potential visitors should be ready for our dialect! It's very unique, if your in need of a tour guide and traslator from your favourite blogger I am sure we could come to some sort of arrangement. Bazinga!

I may at some point add links to any videos I can find about the Hull accent, or maybe even post a few podcasts

But for now, here is a few pointers:

Friday, 1 January 2016

Happy New Year!

Good Evening Folks, And a Happy New Year to you all too! Hope you all had a wonderful time how ever you chose to celebrate it, and I would like to Thank any regular readers that I have out there, it really means a lot to me that you feel reading my little blog of nothing is worth a moment of your time!

2015 had been a particularly hard one for me, I was tested both on a personal level, with The Woman getting diagnosed with cancer (she's a lot better now!) but also professionally I had found my self left having to run a Residential Home with little knowledge of how or what to do!

 2015 was also the year I had to make the heart breaking decision of rehoming my best friend (my doggy) but I know he has gone to a couple who love and adore him and have the time that I simply didn't because of the Woman being ill and because of work. Oh how I weeped! But my shoulder was with another!

All of these things tested me at times, some times I really wanted to throw in the towel, but I didn't. I have had to forfeit my social life, and not see my friends for weeks at a time.

So for me, 2015 taught me that I can accomplish anything with a bit of hard work and determination.

I entered 2016 more determined then ever, with my Regional Manager telling me earlier in the day that she has Great Hopes for me in the future. Golden Girl award goes to moi!

I have tried to blog more, and compared to previous years I feel as though I have managed to do so, but obviously I have had the above mentioned getting in the way at times, and the fact that I have not had a proper day off work in over 6 months now!

I have never really been one for making new years resolutions, hence why I do the DayZero project, you should really go read it, I think it is a brilliant concept, but this year I have decided that I will make more time for me! I guess that's more of a promise to myself though!

Take Care